02 Feb I’m OK, You’re OK! Thoughts on Continuous Self Improvement
It’s Groundhog Day! News alert! The groundhog saw his shadow which means we’re in for another 6 weeks of Winter. Which really means I’m in for six more weeks of reflection and self-analysis before I can head outside and get busy in the garden.
This morning’s revelation is pretty deep so if you need to top off that cup o’ java before reading on, now’s your time.
We’re one month into the new year and if you are like millions of others you have, no doubt, given some thought to what changes you’d like to make in your life moving forward.
Influencers, life coaches, and motivational speakers have forged entire careers hedging on the bet that you will want to be better in the coming year. If you “join their latest academy, register for their newest course, or even take a moment to read the inspirational meme just posted to their social media page” you too can make 2021 your best year yet!
The issue I’ve long struggled with (coming from over 30 years in the training and inspirational industry) is that messages like these are built on an assumption that there is a shortfall to begin with.
Statements like these come from a place of deficit.
“I am not thin/disciplined/successful/perfect…. therefore I am not enough.”
Before you accuse me of being too judgy I will willingly confess that when I’ve conducted training or coaching of any kind, my opening line was always, “You don’t have to be sick to get better.” So trust me when I say that the “we can always improve” mantra is one that I have not only aided and abetted over my lifetime, but to which I have personally ascribed.
What if we lived this year as if we’re OK. Just. The. Way. We. Are. Right. Now?????
I’m going to say that again for the people in the back!
What if we lived this year as if we truly believed we are already FABULOUS! Magnificent! Thin. Disciplined. Successful. Perfect. Whatever.
With no need to improve?
How would the vibration inside your soul feel different?
That is my approach this year.
And I already have one month under my belt.
I’m going to focus my heart and soul not on improving myself, rather on expressing myself and allowing myself to simply be me.
And you are too.
Note: I’m thinking I need to pick up a copy of the book with the brilliant mantra “I’m OK, You’re OK” by Thomas Harris. MD.